Club Pillar is the world’s first sober-forward, members-only dating app.
Our goal is to provide a much-needed platform for those who embrace or wish to explore a sober-friendly lifestyle. We aim to foster an intimate community of high-achieving individuals who seek to connect without drinking.
Club Pillar is for those who don’t want to have to explain why they are abstaining. Those who are tired of being pressured to “just have one drink.” Those who believe that connection doesn’t have to start with a sip.
Alcohol has been ingrained into the fabric of dating culture. We’re changing that.
You’ve got a match. They seem cute, they’re gainfully employed and their opener is decent. But after some back and forth you receive the inevitable DM: “Let’s get a drink this week.”
We all know how this plays out.
If you say you don’t drink, they’ll wonder why. If you say you’re sober, they’ll assume you’re no fun. If you say you’re a recovering alcoholic, they’ll run for the hills. And no matter your response, they’ll follow up with the same question: “why don’t you drink?” This sends you barreling down the road to TMI with a total stranger and rarely leads to a proper date, let alone a budding romance.If you say you don’t drink, they’ll wonder why. If you say you’re sober, they’ll assume you’re no fun. If you say you’re a recovering alcoholic, they’ll run for the hills. And no matter your response, they’ll follow up with the same question: “why don’t you drink?” This sends you barreling down the road to TMI with a total stranger and rarely leads to a proper date, let alone a budding romance.
I’ve experienced these scenarios more times than I’d like to admit and I thought I had worked out some solutions: mysterious next morning job interviews, alcohol allergies, too hungover to drink. But these white lies can’t fix the problem itself. Drinking environments are still triggering. The people across the table are often uncomfortable navigating a night out without booze. And for me, anxiety tends to overshadow any possibility of pleasure, excitement or joy in dating.
Modern dating is enough of a minefield without having to treat your sobriety like an obstacle, so I decided to launch Club Pillar.
The core of the Club Pillar community is a members-only dating app open to anybody looking for substance-free companionship. If you’re sober, sober-curious, a lifetime teetotaler, ‘California Sober’ or in recovery, consider yourself invited.
In addition to creating a sober-friendly alternative to traditional dating platforms, we’re offering members access to exclusive events in their cities. At Club Pillar, we don’t believe sober socializing has to be less-than or boring. Substance-free dinners, parties and retreats can be as sophisticated, decadent and genuinely fun as any others.
If you’ve received this letter, it’s because my team and I think you will make an incredible addition to Club Pillar as we build a community of unique, passionate, individuals who just so happen to live substance- free. We invite you to help make this club a transformative force in sober social life and dating.
Here, you will find answers to common questions about Club Pillar.
Please note that signing up does not guarantee membership. Our dedicated membership team will carefully review your application. You will receive a push notification upon approval.
